Sep 1 2014


Telling your son not to “be such a girl” lets his sister who overhears the conversation know that being a girl is not a good thing and she should be sorry and ashamed of herself.

It also reminds your son that being a boy is better than being a girl and therefore he is better than any girl he will ever meet.

Listening to my SIL this weekend made me happy. “No, I will NEVER say be a big boy or like a girl in my house. I’ll tell Grant (my to be born nephew) to be a big person.”

via biokitty
Aug 31 2014
The bib I made at the baby shower today for my little Grape!

I can’t wait to be an aunt.

The bib I made at the baby shower today for my little Grape!

I can’t wait to be an aunt.

Aug 31 2014


police officers wearing cameras


  • increased accountability
  • decreased brutality
  • reduced public complaints


  • treats symptoms, not cause
  • that’s more footage of donut shop interiors than needs to exist
  • too similar to TV show Cops, lawsuit from Fox likely

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Aug 27 2014

Adult women are now the largest demographic in gaming


Congratulations, gamer girls—you’re officially at the top of the food chain when it comes to games. A new study released by the Entertainment Software Association has revealed that adult women now occupy the largest demographic in the gaming industry. Women over 18 made up a whopping 36 percent of the gaming population, followed by adult men at 35 percent. 

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Aug 26 2014



when I commit to a person, I FUCKING COMMIT. if their depression, anxiety or life comes knocking, you bet your ass i’m at the door with a double sided axe waiting for a good fight. 

you cant expect people, to always be happy, even if they are in love. because life doesn’t stop for anyone. But you can be there for the good fight. 

my god why can’t everyone be like this

via supersecretstealthymode
Aug 26 2014


German Shepherds and their floppy ears. There is nothing I do not like about this.

I love the breed soo much.  Look at those adorable faces.

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Aug 25 2014

Transgender people whose voice doesn't match their looks turn to new app


So, this report was on the local NPR station while I was driving home with my son tonight. 

I asked him after the fact, “Did that make sense, what the app does?”

"Kinda?" He’s 11, you may recall, and has just started middle school. The age when children really start to learn what cruelty means.

"Do you know what transgender means?"

"No …"

"So it’s like … here’s an example. When a baby’s born, the doctor looks and sees that the baby’s got a penis. Doctor says, ‘It’s a boy,’ right?"


"And all throughout that kid’s life, parents and doctors and teachers call him by a boy’s name, and everyone treats him like a boy, and his parents buy him clothes for a boy. But every once in awhile you’ll get someone who doesn’t believe it. Like, way down deep, in their heart of hearts, they know they’re a little girl.." I’m tripping over my words a little here, desperate to explain this to him right, because I know what I say might stick with him for a long time, or maybe forever. “And when they get older, like a teenager or an adult or so, they might decide to start expressing themselves as a girl or a woman instead. It goes the other way too - someone raised all their life as a little girl knows down deep he’s a boy. Sometimes these folks will go so far as surgery to really seal the deal. That make sense?”

"Yeah?" he says, and I believe him. I believe that he can imagine such a person, even if he’s never met one.

"So like, this app, it helps them train their voice, so that the voice that comes out of their mouth matches the voice that speaks inside their head. It can help them be more confident in who they really are. Make sense?"

"Yeah. That’s really cool."

"You think so?"

"Yeah," he says, and I think he’s really warming up to the idea. What he may lack in vocabulary to express endorsement, he makes up for in tone and enthusiasm, like a pre-teen boy does. "That’s really cool."

"Cool, I’m glad you think so. Because out of a group of a hundred random people … well, I don’t know how many might be transgender, but it’s a pretty small number. And like anyone who’s a minority in a group, they get picked on a lot. Bullied. Beaten. Killed, sometimes. So it’s super brave for someone to really own who they are if they’re transgendered, you know?"

"Yeah," he says, in that way that I know he wants to say how it sucks, but he doesn’t really know how.

"So I mean, an app like this can help them with their confidence. And you may never know if someone is transgendered unless they tell you. But just like anyone else who’s getting picked on for some bullshit, you show compassion for them, right? Be good to them if someone is being bad."

"I will."

I hadn’t planned on having this chat with him, but frankly I’m glad this report came on the radio. I hope I did right by him, explaining things as best as I understand them. There was no way to touch on all the nuances, and I can’t even pretend I totally get it, either. But … I hope it’s a good start for him to have some understanding and compassion for the first time he meets a transgendered person. 

Love your approach.  LOVE.

via iterativeimprovement
Aug 25 2014

"Once you get this, you have to say five things about yourself publicly, then send it to ten of your followers”

From supersecretstealthymode.

  1. I have a brick shaped scar on my left arm from a dirtbiking accident.  It’s mostly faded now, but if you look, you’ll find it.  There’s even a gap in the scar from the grout since the grout didn’t cause any abrasion on the skin.
  2. I have an artificial L5-S1 disc.  I had full disc replacement surgery four years ago after a car accident managed to blow my disc.  It took a year and a half and four different insurance companies before I finally got the surgery approved.  
  3. I didn’t originally want to be a teacher.  When I went to college, I wanted to be a child/adolescent psychologist.  I majored in psychology and made it three years in before I realized that I wanted to teach.  Thankfully, my background in adolescent psychology is actually EXTREMELY useful in the classroom.
  4. Abbey is a fulfillment of the only childhood dream I ever had (yeah, yeah that’s pretty sad).  I always wanted a German Shepherd female dog named Abbey.  (Although, originally I wanted it spelled Abbie; letting Steven pick out how to spell it was my compromise in her name.)
  5. I sleep every night to reruns of Futurama.  It really helps me sleep.  I have to have noise, but it needs to be something I’ve already seen or I’ll end up staying awake and watching it, even if I have zero interest in whatever it is.  And it has to be something that doesn’t get old over time.  Therefore, Futurama!