I understand your feelings, and I respect them. However, this is one of those situations that you just can't control, so there's no reason to let it add to your daily stress. I find one key in life is to have my stress level be inversely proportional to my level of control in a situation.

It doesn’t add to my daily stress, unless I come across a reminder of the disrespect my former church inflicts on others.  At some point, I would like to get the church to put, on record, that my name is not to be submitted for baptisms for the dead.  I’m not sure it will be very effective, considering my no-contact letter has not been totally effectual.